Loading...
Processing... Please wait.
IntroductionGrief Support
Understanding your grief

Grieving over the death of a child is a multi-layered response and it can be a lifelong journey for their loved ones.

Here are some general guidelines that may be helpful for you.

Page 1 out 12

Background vector created by Freepik
Grief has no time limit

There are no steps or timetable to follow ‒ no grief is ‘too short’ or ‘too long’. Process your grief at your own pace and be gentle with yourself.

Background vector created by Freepik

Page 2 out 12

Allow yourself to feel

There is no right way to feel about the death of a child.

Anger, Guilt, Relief and Sadness. These are all normal emotions.

If you feel overwhelmed or disturbed,
talk to a professional or someone you trust.

Background vector created by Freepik

Page 3 out 12

Spend some time with yourself

Running and hiding from our feelings could affect our emotional well-being over time.

Spend some time with yourself and your emotions. Write, cry, sing, or exercise. Allow yourself to just be.

It may be painful, but being alone allows you to reflect and make sense of what has happened.

Background vector created by Freepik

Page 4 out 12

Stay Connected

Warmth that is shared is doubled; burden that is shared is halved.

Receiving love and support from those who care about you, can be a great source of comfort.

Background vector created by Freepik

Page 5 out 12

How Are you coping with your grief?

We may find ourselves turning to risky behaviours to cope with our grief:

Prolonged isolation, heavy drinking and thoughts of self-harm are examples of poor coping.

Reach out for help if you find yourself or your loved ones responding to grief in harmful ways.

Page 6 out 12

Background vector created by Freepik
How you can help someone in grief

When supporting those in grief, there is a shared sadness and anxiety of not knowing what to do or what to say. Here are some ways you can support them in their time of need.

Page 7 out 12
Background vector created by Freepik
You don’t have to ‘make things better’

You don’t have to offer answers, to explain why this has happened, or offer ‘quick fixes’.

A precious gift for those who are grieving is to sit in silence and to listen.

Page 8 out 12

Background vector created by Freepik
Follow their lead

Do ask for permission before jumping in to help.

Let them decide how they can be helped best.

Often, practical help for daily matters are most appreciated.

Page 9 out 12
Background vector created by Freepik
Everyone grieves differently

Not seeing others grieve the same way as us may feel isolating, confusing or upsetting. Some try to “stay strong”, avoid the issue or are constantly anxious. Keep in mind that we all cope with grief differently.

Give them time and space. Let them know that they are not alone. Do simple check-ins to show your concern and love.

Background vector created by Freepik

Page 10 out 12

Keep in touch

Remember them on birthdays and anniversaries, when they may be missing their loved one.

Short personal visits, hand-written notes and small gifts can be comforting to those who are grieving.

Page 11 out 12
Background vector created by Freepik